...that one day there will be no foster kids.
Can you imagine what that might mean? That all mothers/fathers, in all circumstances, will have the support they need to keep their children. No children will be raised separated from their birth culture or divorced from ethnic ties. Orphanages will not exist. Adoption agencies will not exist. Adoption search specialists will no longer be needed--no more for the show "The Locator." Closed records will be a thing of the past. No more adoption memoirs. No more adoption conferences and advocacy organizations. No need for support groups or therapy to deal with loss, grief, separation, abandonment that comes with adoption. No need for "culture camps" to connect transnational adoptees with their birth culture. No more transracially adopted girls struggling with ethnic hair that doesn't match their parents' and the constant wondering (and sometimes fear) about where it came from.
No more of this blog.
Showing posts with label foster care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label foster care. Show all posts
Moms Living Clean Documentary
Author: lilisokey
Filmmaker Sheila Ganz is putting together a documentary about mothers trying to get clean from substance abuse in order to keep their kids--specifically at a rehab facility called Center Point Inc in California that support recovery while providing childcare (so the women don't have to be separated from their kids as they recover--a stressor which no doubt would make recovery even harder and is always tough on kids.) I saw a portion of the film at a conference last year--it's quite moving. Ganz notes that we need more programs like Center Point so that children of women trying to get clean don't get automatically placed into foster care. Ganz still needs funds in order to complete the film--please help support! Here's the Web site with more info on how to help.
Moms Living Clean - trailer from Sheila Ganz on Vimeo.
Moms Living Clean - trailer from Sheila Ganz on Vimeo.
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adoption,
birth moms,
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Muslim Woman Denied Foster Parent License Because of Pork-Free Home
Author: lilisokey
A Muslim woman in Baltimore was denied her fostercare license because she does not allow pork in her home. She is Black, a mother of five, married, and a former foster kid herself. She passed screenings and 50 hours of training. The agency is, of course, denying that anti-Muslim bias had anything to do with their decision to deny her, stating that she just seemed "inflexible" during interviews.
I first heard this story on The Daily Show, and I kept hoping it was a joke. In their parody "Pork or Parents" below, they ask 4 foster kids whether they'd prefer A.) their group-home situation with lots of pork, or B.) a stable foster parent home. (Notice they are all Black. Notice they are not laughing.) You can guess their response.
| The Daily Show With Jon Stewart | Mon - Thurs 11p / 10c | |||
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This is outrageous. The woman lives in a decent neighborhood, she can relate to foster kids in a way many foster parents cannot, she wants to open her home to kids who don't have one. We need more foster parents everywhere in this country. There's a trend I've noticed even with the small agency I work with--the good foster homes that are willing to take any child for any length of time eventually end up with 12+ kids in their home. The need is that bad.
Let's get our priorities straight.
Category:
adoption,
african american issues,
discrimination,
family,
foster care,
religion
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Birthing Project USA
Author: lilisokey
Recently I happened upon this super cool organization called Birthing Project USA. "The Underground Railroad for New Life." It's mission is to encourage better birth outcomes in the African-American community. To support mothers and soon-to-be-mothers (teen mothers in particular, it looks like). Did you know that African American mothers are twice as likely as non-African American mothers to lose a baby in infancy? No one is exactly sure why, but it's speculated that it's at least partly due to the fact that "African Americans, more than any other group, have a significant amount of accumulated life-long stress, which impacts their general health and that of their babies." (First 5la)
The factors that cause this stress, I would be willing to bet, are also linked to the reasons so many African American children later end up living in foster care instead of in their biological family homes. I'm amazed with the courage of people like Trisha (see my previous post), who are struggling under an inept welfare system in this economy and yet still manage to provide for their kids.
It seems to me that small non-profit organizations like Birthing Project have a better impact overall than large federal programs like welfare. They are more individual. Maybe we're afraid that if welfare goes way, those programs won't have the resources that big tax-funded federal programs will, and therefore some people will fall through the cracks. But don't they anyway?
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african american issues,
foster care,
mother
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A Libertarian's View on Adoption and Government
Author: lilisokey
Everyone knows libertarians want the government to keep its paws off enterprise and human affairs. I've realized that I mostly agree with this viewpoint when it comes to adoption and foster care--in many ways, government regulation hurts more than helps families.
(For example, Dorothy Roberts, in her book Shattered Bonds: The Color of Child Welfare, writes about how social service agencies and government policy tend to tear apart low-income minority families by removing children at an alarming rate and putting them in foster care, instead of focusing on reunification. Which is just backward. Adoption should not effectively cause a bio family breakdown, it should be the last resort.)
And, furthermore, it's intrusive to have the government own information about you that you can't access as an adoptee--namely, your birth certificate and information on biological family, health, etc.
So I was excited to see an article about adoption, "The Welfare State Kills Children," on The Freeman site, expecting a well-articulated libertarian rant about faulty government intervention in adoption. Which it was, to an extent, but it left much to be desired. Writer James Payne focuses on the government's negligence in allowing Renee Bowman, who severely neglected and abused her 3 adopted daughters, to adopt, but then decries the impediments to adoption many good potential adoptive families face. True, there's tons of policy and red tape. (My parents waited a whopping seven years to adopt me!) Adoptive parents are highly screened, as they should be. And yes, the government failed big time with Renee Bowman.
But in advocating better/faster adoption processes and privatization, Payne ignores the possibility that the reason the kids are in foster care in the first place might be the real issue of concern. That putting a kid in the foster care system costs tax payers ten to eleven times more than putting money toward helping the biological family if poverty is the issue, which it often is. (Now of course for some kids adoption is the best option.) As happens with most mainstream media, the issue is seen from an adoptive-parent perspective. Reporters don't always know to look behind the issue.
But in advocating better/faster adoption processes and privatization, Payne ignores the possibility that the reason the kids are in foster care in the first place might be the real issue of concern. That putting a kid in the foster care system costs tax payers ten to eleven times more than putting money toward helping the biological family if poverty is the issue, which it often is. (Now of course for some kids adoption is the best option.) As happens with most mainstream media, the issue is seen from an adoptive-parent perspective. Reporters don't always know to look behind the issue.
Payne suggests adoptions be handled by private agencies. Sure, this can often be a better process, and Payne believes that bad practices would be naturally eliminated because adoptive families would not patronize those bad agencies. (This is what I love about libertarians--they're so hopeful!) But private adoption still doesn't quite leave the government out of the transaction--in most states still, the government owns the sealed records and the child's birth certificate. When we turn it all over to a business model, the power would lie with adoptive parents, as they're the paying customers. But yet with a "largely unregulated" system that he suggests there's the risk of child trafficking, which happens all over the world and even in our US of A. There are many risks of any option. Which ones are we willing to take?
We need to educate the public about ALL the issues of adoption so we can join forces with libertarians like James Payne, who I suspect would fight with us for unsealed birth certificates.
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adoption,
foster care,
government,
libertarian,
politics
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