We all know many black men have hair issues--issues with women's hair, that is. Some women might think that only a mate from within the black community would understand the importance of hair, since it's often such a big deal within the community as a whole. But there's something to be said for guys who have no prior hang-ups. And for guys who will truly love you for who you are--no matter your hair's natural texture or the way you decide to style it.
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On another note, I found this article refreshing, not only because of the "hair freedom" topic, but because it emphasizes a particular interracial coupling: the black female with a white male. More often, you see white-woman-black-man couples (especially in Hollywood--but perhaps they just get more media attention and those depictions don't necessarily match reality?) There are people in the black community who get quite upset about this trend. They say there's already a lack of available black men, and it's just a slap in the face to see them step outside the race like that. Then there's the statistic that 60-70% of black female professionals are single. Essence magazine often prints articles about how to keep your man from wandering. The incarceration rate for black men compared to any other demographic in this country is overwhelmingly high. These facts are distressing, to say the least.
There's something to be said about dating someone within your community, whatever community that is most important to you--religious, racial, political, hair (ha!). But at what cost? What if a person is part of one of your communities but not all? What if he's part of your community but there are other problems, problems you aren't sure negate your commonalities? Isn't it more important that you find someone who loves you for you and will support you through all of life's toils and joys?
Easier said than done, I think. At least for me.
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